Changing My Energy: Forgiveness

Sunday, 18 March 2018


I am a big believer in all things universe and energy and one thing I have gotten a lot better at is dealing with some of the crap that life can throw at me. My goal for this year was to become a much happier person in myself, and react in a calmer and more positive way to things, trying to filter out as much negativity as possible. 

"You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? You spilled the coffee everywhere because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in your cup, you would have spilled tea. The point is whatever is in your cup, is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It's easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So, we have to ask ourselves, "What's in my cup?" When life gets tough, what spills out? Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or does anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions come out? You choose! Today let's work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness, gentleness and love for others."
- Source, Unknown,



I read this quote after bumping into my ex during a night out. I didn't go the whole dramatics but I found myself full of anger and hate for this person, when in fact that's more of a reflection of myself than it is of them. I have worked so hard to change so many aspects of my life but still this one thing, reacting to people, is what always gets me so much. I can't seem to take the control into my own hands and change my feelings for myself rather than for their benefit. When you put effort into something or someone and it doesn't go the way you wanted it to, you immediately feel angry or upset and think 'why is life doing this to me?'. But a wise friend said to me its not happening to me it's happening for me, and after a week or two I finally understood.

All of these experiences, bad or good, are there to make me into a better person if I choose to accept the lessons. My lesson this time was that no matter what happens and what other people do, I can't change them, I can only change the way I react to the situation. And whatever 'spills out my cup' is actually more on me and how I choose to feel. I will not become a product of other peoples actions towards me. I will create my own energy. I need to become better at forgiving people not because they deserve it, but because they have been put in my life to teach me something and once that is done, I have to forgive them and move on. As hard as it may be in some cases, it's the only way to make sure I choose my feelings and energy.  I only want to fill myself with positive and productive energy and learning how to recognise these things as lessons to build me rather than attacks to break me. 

Some positive energy that arrived in my life a few days ago were the new beauty products by Chloe Lewis Beauty, so upon changing my energy to that of productive, I decided to spend my Sunday getting dolled up for no one but me. The highlighter is such a warming colour it doesn't look too obvious but gives a good shine. The lipsticks were perfect for day-me and night-me feeling smooth and creamy. 

Now to make sure only positive things come out of my dolled up lips ........

(links to products after images)










Find the website here: www.chloelewisbeauty.co.uk

Highlighter here: https://chloelewisbeauty.co.uk/collections/highlighters/products/bronzed-beauty

Honey Honey Nude Lipstick: https://chloelewisbeauty.co.uk/collections/lipsticks/products/color-5

Lady Love Red Lipstick: https://chloelewisbeauty.co.uk/collections/lipsticks/products/color-6

These products were gifted to feature, but all application, thoughts and opinions are my own.


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